Focusing on yourself and growing your confidence is the biggest act of self love. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. I’ve been doing slow work on this for years. This year I threw myself at it and for the last 6+ months I've focused on expanding my comfort zone. So What IS a Comfort Zone?

It’s a weird summer, half living with my parents again, and sometimes friend’s houses. Running my own business, unsure of my income week to week. Living out of a suitcase, missing my lizard and trying to make new friends at age 30. There’s been so much change this year and it’s hard to imagine my future. Instead I’m forced to find what is a constant through all of this.

I think anger has a bad reputation. We don’t want to be called ‘angry’ and the word is often associated with things like aggression. Anger, like any emotion, isn’t bad. I don’t believe any emotions are good or bad. Anger is the part of you that loves and protects you, that will stand up for you and knows when you are being treated unfairly. Which is so important! Based on psychoanalytic theory, what makes you angry and how you express it is down to your temperament and upbringing. In this blog I explain the emotions underneath the anger, the spectrum of temperament and how your childhood influences it.

Your whole life is being shaped by what you say yes to and what you say no to. By what you allow, and don’t allow. This is why setting and maintaining boundaries impacts your quality of life, and all the relationships within it. Romantic, friendships, family or professional. Boundaries can also be financial, material, spiritual or time based. They are your non-negotiable. They will empower you, deepen your connection with others and improve your self-esteem.

Do you have regrets? I would argue a regret is something you didn't learn anything from. Otherwise if you regret the event, you regret how you grew from it. Someone recently asked me "what would you have done differently in your life?" So here’s a blog about my response…