Regrets, Re-dos and Real Talk

Do you have regrets? I would argue a regret is something you didn't learn anything from. Otherwise if you regret the event, you regret how you grew from it.

Someone recently asked me "what would you have done differently in your life?" Pretty big question. Would be a nice journaling prompt. The more I thought back over embarrassing moments, upsetting times and misplaced priorities, the more I realised how much I learnt from each and every experience. If I could go back, and I changed that regret, wouldn’t it have just happened another time, or in another way… until I learnt the lesson anyway?

Even right now, during the hardest months of my life. Heartbroken and feeling homeless, floating between friends and family guest rooms whilst trying to process grief. I still don't think I would have done anything differently.

I did the best I could at every point in my life, with what I knew at the time. Sure, now I know the dangers of using steroids and the importance of diet for skin and mental health, but it's only in hindsight I see these things. At the time, I did my best with the knowledge I had then. I learnt and grew from the experience.

Every mistake, joy, adventure or challenge has shaped who I am today. And I like who I am. I have my own issues, sure, but I'm working through them in my own way, at my own pace. If I did anything differently in life, maybe I wouldn't be who I am now.

So no, I wouldn't change anything. A regret is only a regret, if you didn't learn and grow from it...

Would you agree?

“Cause love's never lost when perspective is earned”

- Taylor Swift